A social critic and public commentator, Chief Chukelu Madu, has warned against the creation and support of widows’ clubs and divorcee clubs, especially in the Catholic church. Speaking in a telephone interview, Madu explained that a widow’s place is not with other widows as such a club can only generate negative results since widowhood is an unfortunate incident that must never be hyped.
“Instead of giving them clubs to gather and discuss their sorrows and bitterness, why not quietly assist them? A woman’s place is with her man. If he is absent, it is not the place of her fellow woman to take her place”, he argued.
Madu, in his speech, further stated, “The creation of widows’ Club in the Catholic Church is a very dangerous development capable of destroying marriages, happy living and the future of many promising marriages.
“When Catholic priests endorse and support Widows’ clubs, the alarming result is that you are creating a group of young women who lead themselves and decide what they want, which is not the way God wants things to be.
“Most of these widows are young and if not for the fact that they lost their husbands, they should have a man who is guiding them as wives. Unfortunately, the Church empower them so much that they own houses and cars and become the envy of married women. Do you know what this means? They become hardened, believing that they don’t need men. They now begin to coach other young innocent women to live the way they want to live. The unmarried ones are even advised to stay away from marriage since there is no benefit; after all, they are doing well without husbands. In this era of social media, they are so bitter with happily married women because they have lost their husbands. They begin to advise them on how they can manipulate the poor husband to get money from him and possibly eliminate him. It’s that bad. There is a group on WhatsApp that a lady created, and so many women are members. What do they discuss there?
“How men have mistreated them, and the different ways and methods through which they can take revenge. The posts I was privileged to see from someone’s screenshot showed not one but over five different women proffering very valid methods of killing a man in a way that no one will be able to suspect the woman. It was uncanny.
“It’s a very dangerous trend to have a divorced or widows’ club. Women should never have any such club because both divorce and widowhood are anomalies in the human system that bring sorrow and which no one wishes for.
“Women are very emotional, but men are logical. The reason why God created the woman to stay under the man is because a woman’s emotions could make her lose her sense of boundaries. A man reasons what would go wrong if he takes certain actions whereas the women don’t bother with that. They don’t like boundaries, anything that can make them happy, even if it will burn them, they will take it. If it’s to go and scatter families, they are okay with it. They want other people to come to their side as partners, even if it’s partners in pain. They are hypergamous, they want to rise and gain more, and become more, and enjoy more.
“But God put the man just above them to control what they do. They may not like it but that’s to save them from destroying themselves. So, creating a women’s club, a widows’ club, or a divorcee’s club is against nature.
“Social media has made it worse and when they see other girls living large, enjoying themselves, they want to live like that, not knowing that these things aren’t real. But it’s a woman’s nature to feel happy, she wants to feel like that girl on social media.
“So churches should not have widows’ club, they should ban it, it’s nowhere in the Bible. It’s a place where the devil uses to enter the and wreck havoc on happy families”, he stated.
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